It REALLY annoys me when...

... a friend, who refuses to admit to his own problems with depression, comes over for lunch and ends up pschoanalysing ME.

[rant mode on]

It is infuriating and I'm still so annoyed and cross with him!!! I understand totally that he is doing it out of friendship and all that, but it really gets to me because he is struggling so badly with depression and anxiety himself, and he is unwilling to or incapable of admitting to it and refuses to get himself some help.

I should give some background... This is a friend of many, many years and a very close friend of hubby & mine. After the break-up with his fiance (this was to be marriage #3) - who then got cervical cancer and blamed him for giving it to her - he had a mini breakdown. We were there every step of the way helping out however we could. Now, helping is very different to telling & lecturing...

Fast forward a bit, and he started seeing his GP who prescribed him Xanax and Zoloft (I swear GPs should NEVER EVER prescribe anti-depressants - but that's a whole other post...) and he started seeing a psychologist. This seemed to help for a while, and then started to help not so much. Hubby & I began to wonder how "sane" the so-called psychologist was and how strictly our friend was taking his meds...

Fast forwad to the present, our friend just got fired from his job (one he had only been in for 5 months) and is now spiraling downhill fast, but won't admit it - instead he is intent on "saving" me and "helping" me and basically every time we talk he is telling me what I need and what I should do about my depression. All the while he is not even looking for a job, hence making his depression worse, has stopped taking his meds, seriously bad idea, and isolating himself.

Me, on the other hand, am having the odd bad day (as my last couple of post will attest to) but all in all am doing pretty well, am working and studying, am socialising, am taking my meds strictly as prescribed etc. etc. The last thing I need is a depressive-in-denial lecturing me about depression!!!

[rant mode off]

Thanks for letting me vent!

to be continued...